When you are planning your guest list you need to set some limits. Most couples have several factors to consider, including their budget and the size of the facility where the wedding is going to take place. If you need to set limits you should also prioritize your guest list with an “A list,” which should include immediate family members, members of the wedding party, and closest friends.

You both need to establish the ground rules up front, and both families must abide by these ground rules. Some examples of ground rules are: no co-workers, no dates for single guests, no distant relatives, or maybe no children. It is best to

be up front and let your parents and future in-laws know beforehand how many guests they are each allocated. Another tip is to send out wedding announcements to individuals that you want to know about the wedding, but are unable to invite due to limitations.


  • Finalize and “Cut” the list – Separate your list into an “A” and “B” The “A” list is composed of family and friends who you can’t imagine not being there, and the “B” list is composed of people that you would like to attend, but whose absence wouldn’t upset you. Send invitations out to the “A” list first, then, after you receive regrets, send out invitations to the people on your “B” list.
  • Invitations should be ordered at least three months prior (at this time you must have your locations for the ceremony and the reception confirmed)
  • Invitations should consist of the invitation, the envelope, the response card and a stamped, self addressed envelope for the response You have a much higher chance of getting response cards back when they are pre-addressed and stamped. If you ask guests to RSVP to an email address, a response card is unnecessary.
  • Order at least 30 extra invitations for mistakes and last minute
  • No nicknames should be permitted, and the date and time should be written out in
  • Addressing Etiquette: Use full names, write out all words (including “and”) and use numerical figures only when writing house numbers and postal Write first names of children to be invited below the parents in age order. Children over 18 should receive their own invitation




Married couple

Mr. and Mrs. Matt Smith

Tracy & Matt

Married couple with children

Mr. and Mrs. Matt Smith & Family

Tracy & Matt Stacy & Mike

Women kept maiden name

Ms. Tracy Jones and Mr. Matt Smith

Tracy & Matt

Divorced woman or man                                     Ms. Tracy Jones                                                                                    Tracy & Guest 

(If the divorced women resumed using her maiden name, use that instead.

This is also how you would address an envelope to a single person and their date)

Unmarried couple living together

Ms. Tracy Jones and Mr. Matt Smith

Tracy & Matt


Mrs. Tracy Smith



Electronic invites are becoming increasingly popular. They save on paper and have less of an impact on the environment. For the modern bride, this is a great way to invite your family and friends to your special day in a trendy, chic way.

E-vites can also save you a lot on postage, depending on the avenue you choose. You have unlimited options. Another e-vite idea is to send out an email version of your invitation, which can also include a picture of the happy couple and all the information your guests will need.

Have your guests email their responses to you. You can set up a special wedding email address like [email protected] for all your wedding needs and then, once the special day is over, you can close the account! Or you can set up a Save-the-Date website for your guests to visit when they can reply with a ‘yea’ or ‘nay’ to your wedding and leave cute little notes for you as well.

In today’s global marketplace there is really something for everyone at every price.

A budget bride needn’t settle. She may have to do a little more homework. Who said money equals good taste, anyways?


Use internet marketing tools like Facebook to create events for the parties that surround the wedding like the bachelorette party or the rehearsal dinner. This gives everyone all the information they need in a paper-free way.

You can also send out emails/e-vites to guests as your wedding day approaches to keep them updated on all the latest happenings.



The well-planned bride always keeps thank-you cards at her fingertips. You will need to send thank-you cards after your bridal showers and engagement parties. These will come from the bride herself.

After your wedding day, you will need to send thank-you cards for your wedding gifts. These will come from the bride and groom, using your newly married titles. It is also good to keep some special thank-you cards on hand to thank someone who has gone out of their way to help you or make your day special.

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